A father refused to pay for his daughter’s wedding after she went behind his back and invited his brother, with whom he had a long-standing feud. The 46-year-old was blamed for making his daughter’s wedding about himself.
A father opened up about a challenging situation that had the potential to ruin his relationship with his daughter. The 46-year-old revealed that his daughter was getting married in the spring.
The father explained that in his culture, it was tradition for each family to pay for half of the wedding. But after his daughter revealed she would be inviting his brother, whom he had a long-standing rivalry with, he felt his boundaries were being crossed.
Not only did he find out that his daughter wanted to have his brother at her wedding, but she had also been hanging out with him and his wife for the past four years.
His daughter also asked for her cousin to be the flower girl. As soon as the father heard his daughter’s words, he got angry. He felt that she was not considerate of his feelings and boundaries.
So, the father decided to put his foot down and told his daughter that he would not be paying for a wedding or even be a part of it. His daughter got angry and claimed he was making her wedding about himself.
The daughter continued telling her father to let the past go, but the 46-year-old was unwilling to compromise and made her choose between him and her uncle.
The whole family turned against the father. He had his ex-wife call him and scream at him for hurting their daughter’s feelings. His parents also called him, asking him to reconsider disappointing his daughter. But he ended up ignoring their calls.
The father’s girlfriend also tried to calm him down and get him to rethink his decision. She even made him aware that he risked damaging his relationship with his daughter if he backed out of the wedding.
Still, the 46-year-old was not backing down. He reasoned that he wanted his feelings respected and wondered if he was wrong to pull out his daughter’s wedding to make a point that a line had been crossed.
Why Didn’t the Man Want His Brother at His Daughter’s Wedding?
The long-standing feud between the 46-year-old and his 48-year-old brother started when the father was 20 years old.
His girlfriend at the time cheated on him with his brother, and they ended up getting married. After being heartbroken, he decided he would never be in the same space as his brother again.
He also asked his family to help him keep his distance, but they never cut him off. That meant if his parents ever wanted to have both him and his brother over, he would automatically eliminate himself from the plans.
What Do Commenters Think about the Father’s Decision
As much as the 46-year-old had his family turn against him, many people understood where he came from. Commenters believed there was no need for his daughter to have contacted his brother, knowing how her father felt.
As much as the daughter said her father was making her wedding about him, internet users also thought her going behind her father’s back was a betrayal.
Many more people agreed and reiterated that no one understood where the 46-year-old was coming from because they did not try to put themselves in his shoes and that it was wrong for them to determine when it was time for him to forgive his brother.
The daughter was also blamed for making everything about her father’s money when she did not think about how betraying her father would make him feel. Therefore, Reddit commenters said she should get her uncle to finance the wedding since he wanted to fight for him so much.
Additionally, people commended the father for setting his boundaries and sticking by them because it was not an easy decision, especially since it put his relationship with his daughter on the line.
